A conversation about my recent post has made me ponder the reasons and effects of compartmentalizing. I often find myself wondering what would happen if more people were more honest about their feelings, thoughts, and problems. I wonder if “How you doing?” Is a rhetorical or actual question. Unless I distinctly feel I’m being dismissed, I usually answer honestly, if not elaborately. “Oy, vey…lemme’ tell ya ’bout it”, then summarize. How many do this? Do those who don’t feel compelled to, or hold back for fear of judgement. Nobody wants to be a Debbie Downer or negative Nancy. But, I feel that a succinctly sincere answer is generally in order. I try to keep it in perspective, focusing on solutions , or asking for advice. This is how the human connection is made.
It drives me crazy when people do nothing but complain, & even crazier when they act like their life, relationship, children, etc., are perfect. It closes us of to other people and their ideas. Those who go to great lengths to convince others how perfect their life is are usually the ones with the worst problems, and the most likely to crumble when things go wrong. Why? Seems to me that hiding one’s problems greatly diminishes options for solutions. If everyone believes your life is perfect, you don’t need, favors or advice. Next time a friend asks how you’re doing, answer honestly and see what happens!
While my blog addresses challenges, I attempt to emphasize the theme of hope. That is why I always tag posts with “inspiration” (when I remember to tag them).
Please comment & share your thoughts and experiences.:)