Above is my empathy quotient. The last neuropsychologist I saw believed I was not on the spectrum because I am capable of empathy. I suggested to him that perhaps it wasn’t an issue with feeling empathy, so much as expressing it. Then I asked, “If you don’t feel empathy, doesn’t that just make you a sociopath?” He said that sociopaths choose not to empathize, and Autists simply can’t empathize. That was very confusing to me.
I feel that he was close to getting it, but didn’t quite. I can only speak for myself and my observations. I know I am an empath. As a younger person, I came off as not really caring about anyone else, but was often described as “sensitive”. Seems a bit oxymoronic. I think I had my own feelings, and everyone else’s feelings being received, but wasn’t really able to process it all, so I withdrew. I believe that part of Autism is being a conduit. How you learn to process is heavily influenced by environment.